Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Today, I found out I got a hit for the inquiry "should I tell my fiance i kissed a man."

Upon reading this, I scratched my head.

"Fiancé" denotes a man, so one may deduce that the troubled party would be female, as the fiancée. (Perhaps our lovers are two men -- it is the twenty-first century, after all -- but what would be so remarkable about a gay man kissing another man?)

So. Naturally, those who have made public declarations of commitment to one another would be very sensitive to actions that violate those vows, so the question itself is not so remarkable. It is the gender-specific wording that is so strange. Not a person or someone or somebody, but a man, exactly. Presumably, in the engagement between a man and a woman, were either to break faith, it would respectively be with a woman and a man. To reiterate a presumed fact suggests it is unusual, unexpected, to be noted.

The single situation where a woman would find it difficult to share that she had kissed a man -- a man and not a woman -- is if she were a lesbian; yet here she cannot be one, as lesbians do not have fiancés ... unless they are pretending not to be lesbians, but that is also impossible here; in a situation where a lesbian woman is feigning heterosexual impulses, her fiancé cannot be surprised that she would kiss a man (although he may have objections about the situation in general). What on earth is going on here?

Yes, you should tell him.

posted at 1:01:05 pm

Deirdre
August 5, 2008   07:23 AM PDT
 
I love your stories! I can't say it enough.

And to save her some trouble, why don't YOU tell him Gloria. I mean, it's the least you can do. :P

J f Z
July 22, 2008   01:01 AM PDT
 
Man kisser ;)
J f Z
July 22, 2008   01:01 AM PDT
 
Kelpy Skank ;)
J f Z
July 22, 2008   01:00 AM PDT
 
Slut. ;)
Gloria
July 20, 2008   07:09 PM PDT
 
I am not biased. "Fiance" refers to a man, so if this is, as one presumption holds, a male-female engagement, whether they are bisexual or heterosexual, it can only be the female party asking.
anjelle
July 18, 2008   02:43 PM PDT
 
What if it is a male-female engagement where the male partner had an urge to experiment and kissed another male? You allow for the possibility that the female half may switch sides and experiment with her sexual preference, but not for the male. I suggest this is a highly biased response.

There is such a thing as a bisexual male.

Anway. I am amused at the hit. I wonder what strange phrase or word connected the question to your blog.

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